5 Songs To Get You Through Valentine's Day When You're All By Yourself

by - February 14, 2018

Shot through the heart, and you're to blame, darling you give love a bad name!

From Bon Jovi's You Give Love A Bad Name to Destiny's Child's Survivor, who cares about sappy love songs any more? The bleakness of breaking up or the realisation that you'll be #foreveralone is where it's at! Especially Valentine's Day, when everyone is strumming their guitars and humming 'dream a little dream of me', is the perfect day to counteract and celebrate your loneliness. Because although it's against popular believe, being alone isn't as bad as it sounds (Paradise By The Dashboard Light, anyone?).

Who wants a guy, girl or non-binary pal who obligatory takes you out for a 'romantic' dinner while you just as easily could stay home, anxiously cuddle your pup and sway to Paloma Faith's Smoke And Mirrors. Now all shout on top of your lungs: don't look back 'cause you've just lost your lover!

So say bye bye to love, bye bye to happiness and HELLO to loneliness! I've selected the perfect songs for all the different degrees of heartache you might be experiencing at the moment...

Degree of heartache: Trouble in paradise

We're getting close to goodbye, you're running out of time

Not quite alone yet, but plotting on killing your (romantic) partner? Let me fuel those feelings for you! Trouble With My Baby by Paloma Faith will just work wonders when trying to decide between a cold hearted text message or a raging novel.

Degree of heartache: Hanging in there

No, love don't come easy but I keep on waiting, anticipating

Hopeful, desperate but hopeful, is how I would describe The Supremes' You Can't Hurry Love. Just keep repeating to yourself those precious words of mama-dear, as she's most probably right (as mama-dears often are): your love days will come! Just not today. Or tomorrow.

Degree of heartache: NOT hanging in there

I ain't got nobody, nobody, nobody cares, nobody cares, nobody cares for me

Desperation never sounded so good! I Ain't Got Nobody is just over a hundred years old and perfect for anyone looking for a good excuse to sulk (although, honestly, who needs a reason?). My personal preference goes to the fictional band Gloria Dee (played by Camilla Marie Beeput) and her Quartet from the British detective series Grantchester (available on Spotify!). You've never felt lonelier...

Degree of heartache: Get up and get over it

I used to lie awake at night callin' your name, now I sleep good and miss a lot of trains

Although a painful reminder for all those running late and literally about to miss their trains, I Miss A Lot Of Trains by Tom T. Hall speaks to the heart of everyone who's 100% done. No grievance, no single salty tear (or ugly crying). Love who? Never heard of her.

Degree of heartache: Are you.. are you OK?

I want love to roll me over slowly, stick a knife inside of me, and twist it all around

You don't experience heartache, you eat it for breakfast. Although a love song at heart, Love Interruption by Jack White is -at best- a rather unconventional serenade to sing to your [non-existing] lover. A serenade perfect for every cynic or maniac who's infected with the lovebug.

So grab your classic 1980s boombox, stand outside the house of the ones who've wronged you AND TURN UP THE VOLUME! Or sing/cry yourself to sleep with these miserable words and melodies intoxicating your safe space i.e. the fort of duvets seperating you from the cold harsh world. And remind yourself that the only thing worse than someone who's bitter, is someone who's love struck. Ew!

Unchain your heart and embrace the loneliness: which degree of heartache are you experiencing at the moment?

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  1. I love the idea of this post! Thankfully I'm not currently experiencing heartbreak 😅

    Ashleigh | http://ashleighwrites.co.uk

    1. Thank you! And what's not there can always come... jk! Anyway, you know where to find me if you're experiencing any kind of heartbreak. Which doesn't have to be romantic! I for one am singing Trouble With My Baby on top of my lungs as I'm trying to learn how to play the ukelele and I'm absolutely disastrous at it... I can't keep giving you all and get back nothing! ;)

  2. This is such a great post, so funny! I'm in a happy relationship and still find love songs super annoying- its all anyone ever seems to write about anymore haha!- https://sophiehearts.net x

    1. Breakup songs for the win! Good to have you on our side! I'm actually at the moment listening to Love Me Do by The Beatles. "Love me do, you know i love you", oh really Paul? please get over yourself (or get more creative). ;)

  3. Ahah I love this post! It was fun and all the songs were spot on. I'm not experiencing heartbreak but I am single and more on the blissful side but I do enjoy my slow and mellow love struck songs. Thanks for sharing this list! :) <3

    xx Lena | https://lenadeexo.com

    1. Thank you! Perhaps I should make a list for love songs that aren't offensive to single people. ;) (although, honestly, I'm a big sucker for a good melo-driven love song and can sing most of them along perfectly fine with dramatic arm wavering and single tearing).

  4. Love these types of posts, so light hearted! Hope you had a great Valentines Day x

    Sinead | www.subjectbeauty.com

    1. Thank you! I'm the queen of light heartedness... ;) I don't actually celebrate Valentine's Day (I know, I know, who am I then to bash the whole thing?), but my mother got a card for my father that played a song when you opened it and Sarah (my four-pawed friend) was just very, very, very confused and troubled about it. The cutest thing I've seen this year!