To Imitate Or Not To Imitate (That's Not The Question)
There's a time when you imitate and a
time when you're being imitated, atleast that's what my society
teacher said to me. He also said that the border between those
periods was at mid-adolescense. Hereby saying that you've been
“completed” at around the age of sixteen.
I find that a very bold and incorrect
statement. I believe that from the beginning until the end everyone
plays both roles. By immitation we learn from eachother and
ourselves. Suggesting that only the first or so decade counts, is
like giving it a golden plate without knowledge of the outcome.
Ignoring the rest of a lifetime where literally anything could happen
is therefor unadvisable.
We start imitating our surroundings the
moment we are set on earth, so why would it suddenly stop? It makes
me question what kind of person becomes of it (a very not-humanlike
person I bet).
The thing about imitation is that it's
very straight to the point and puts you in someone else's point of
view. It's a very educational experience and it wonders me why people
are often so negative about it.
“Better fail in originality than
succeed in imitation”, Herman Melville once said. However I think
imitation is part of a progressive scheme, like following Jean-Luc
Godard “it's not where you take things from-it's where you take
them to”.
When I'm uninspired and don't know what
to do, I come back to a safe haven with things printed in my mind and
just go for that. Not as an ultimate destination, but as a tool to
help me get a step further. Immitation can help coping with something
you don't know what to do about or how to act upon something. It's
not always as sincere, but keep in mind that it's a resource.
There's a world of difference between
watching your grandmother knit and actually holding a knitting needle
in your hand. Imitation is more about process than content and can be
the source of awakening ambition.
Nowadays it's all about pretending a
posture simultaneously means feeling likewise. However to the wisdom
of the old: we become what we see in ourselves. How can we see
something without being influenced by our surroundings? Because when
you're not looking, you're not seeing. And so when our learning
process ends mid-adolescence, there need to be a lot of imitating
going on in such a short period to cover for the rest of your life.
It will be out of proportion and thereby not valid.
Society is focused upon authenticity.
You've got to credit everyone/everything you take things from.
However sometimes you copy and paste without realizing it. You get
inspired by something and before you know it, you've been emerged
into their scenery.
You need to be aware of yourself when
you use imitation as a destination. Don't force yourself into
something you're frankly not. When I was younger I had ambitions to
be different. Everything was orientated on being someone no one else
was. I thought I could become this ultimate rare specimen by copying
elements of people I adored (perhaps you should forget logic). At
some point I became very frustrated with myself. I couldn't do
anything, I questioned everything and spend my days mostly moaning
and crying.
Suddenly it struck me: it's not about
being different, but about being yourself (a corny story, I know).You
can imitate as long as you don't outnumber yourself. Because when you
take yourself to the front, you do things your way. The imitation
isn't an imitation because you stand in front of it. Does that make
sense?
I still have a great urge to be
“different”. Only know I approach it as ammunition. I do what I
like and not just in the name of “I wanna be...”. So again
immitation isn't something bad and people who immitate shouldn't see
it as a way to alter yourself into something you're not.
Imitation is often a compliment to the
imitated, though it can be very annoying (especially when you're in a
“I wanna be different” phase). Back in high school I was very
quiet. No one ever really talked to me. So when someone talked to me,
I got a wee bit excited. Particularly when I could talk about things
that interested me. A downside to the excitement is that others also
got excited. It even gets worse when not long after everyone is
hopping around with your interests (it can drive a person hopping
mad). It also hurts a bit when you realize that the same people
hopping around with “your stuff”, previously bullied you about
“your stuff”. Moreover, they are done with it within a few weeks.
Where as you would probably enjoy it for like a year (but now
obviously denies its existence when it became widely known by the
cool crowd).
Imitation is educational, but doesn't
give you the power to become someone you're not. Imitation can
provide you the spark you needed to strive for a certain desire, wish
or ambition. You can look through someone's eyes and decide if it's
appropiate to you. Don't deceive yourself, because at the end it's all about you and not the “I wanna be you”.
Love,
Dominique
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